Sexual Justice: Claiming Our Right to Well-Being

Every year on September 4th, the global community comes together to celebrate World Sexual Health Day (WSHD), a day dedicated to breaking down stigmas, opening conversations, and advocating for the sexual well-being of all people. Each year has a theme, and for 2025, the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) has put forward a powerful and urgent call to action: "Sexual Justice: A Foundation for Freedom and Equality."

But what does "Sexual Justice" truly mean? And why is it the essential foundation the theme claims it to be? This year, it’s time to move beyond awareness and dive deep into the transformative work of building a just world for all sexual beings.

Beyond Health: Understanding Sexual Justice

When we think of sexual health, we often think of contraception, STI prevention, and regular check-ups. These are vital, but they are only a part of the picture. Sexual justice expands this view. It’s the principle that every person, without exception, has the right to:

• Autonomy over their own body and the freedom to make informed choices about their sexual life.
• Access comprehensive, evidence-based education about sexuality and relationships, free from misinformation.
• Receive respectful, affordable, and high-quality healthcare without facing discrimination based on gender, orientation, race, ability, or income.
• Experience sexual pleasure and well-being safely and without shame.
• Live free from violence, coercion, and stigma in their sexual and romantic lives.

In essence, sexual justice is the framework that ensures these rights are not just ideals but realities for everyone. It recognizes that without justice, true health and well-being are impossible to achieve.

Why is "Sexual Justice" the Theme for 2025?

The choice of theme is a direct response to the persistent and growing inequalities we see worldwide:

• The Rollback of Rights: In many regions, hard-won rights related to bodily autonomy and LGBTQ+ inclusion are under threat.
• The Access Gap: Marginalised communities, including people of color, those living in poverty, and people in rural areas, often face significant barriers to sexual healthcare and education.
• The Shadow of Stigma: Stigma surrounding HIV, sexual orientation, gender identity, and sex work continues to prevent people from seeking care and living authentically.
• The Persistence of Violence: Gender-based and sexual violence remains a global epidemic, a stark violation of the most fundamental sexual right: the right to safety.

The 2025 theme is a declaration that we cannot address sexual health without simultaneously fighting for the justice that makes it accessible to all.

What Does Sexual Justice Look Like in Action?

This concept might feel broad, but it translates into concrete, daily actions and changes:

• In the Doctor's Office: It looks like a low-income patient getting free contraceptives without judgment.
• In the Classroom: It means students learning about consent, healthy relationships, and diverse sexual orientations and gender identities as a standard part of a science-backed curriculum.
• In the Law: It involves repealing discriminatory laws and passing legislation that protects bodily autonomy.
• In the Home: It’s about families having open, shame-free conversations about bodies, boundaries, and respect.
• In the Media: It’s the representation of diverse relationships and identities in stories, moving beyond harmful stereotypes.

How You Can Champion Sexual Justice

This isn't a fight for policymakers and healthcare workers alone. We all have a role to play.

1. Educate Yourself: Seek out resources from reputable organizations (like WAS, WHO, and Planned Parenthood).
2. Examine Your Biases: We all have them. Reflect on your own assumptions about sexuality, gender, and relationships. Commit to unlearning harmful stereotypes.
3. Practice Consent in All Things: Make enthusiastic consent a non-negotiable part of all your interactions, both sexual and non-sexual. Respect the boundaries of others.

A Future Built on Justice

The theme for World Sexual Health Day 2025, "Sexual Justice: A Foundation for Freedom and Equality," is a bold vision. It challenges us to dream bigger than just the absence of disease. It invites us to build a world where everyone has the freedom, knowledge, and safety to explore their sexuality and pursue well-being on their own terms.

This September 4th, let’s commit to that vision. Let’s move beyond awareness and into action. Because sexual health is a human right, and justice is how we secure it for all.

The Serious Message of Go Topless Day and Its Fight for True Equality

Every year, on the Sunday closest to August 26th, a curious and often controversial event unfolds in public squares, beaches, and parks across North America and beyond. It’s a spectacle designed to grab attention: a gathering of people, primarily women, marching, picnicking, and protesting with their bare chests exposed. To the casual onlooker, or the person who only sees a sensationalised headline, Go Topless Day might appear to be little more than a provocative stunt, a cheeky excuse for public nudity, or a frivolous celebration of the female form.

But to dismiss it as such is to miss the profound, deeply serious point entirely. Go Topless Day is not about nudity for nudity’s sake. It is a potent, visceral, and strategically jarring form of protest. It is a living, breathing argument about bodily autonomy, legal equality, and the deep-seated cultural hypocrisy that continues to police women’s bodies. And its chosen date is no accident; it is deliberately and powerfully tied to Women’s Equality Day, creating a stark, physical reminder that the journey toward full equality is far from over.

The Legal Foundation

To understand Go Topless Day, one must first understand the legal landscape it protests. The event’s origins are deeply rooted in a fundamental question: If a man can legally be shirtless in public to cool down on a hot day, why can’t a woman?

For decades, the answer was rooted in outdated "indecency" laws that specifically criminalised the female nipple. These laws were rarely challenged, accepted as a simple fact of life, a reflection of "public morality." But in 1992, New York State’s highest court delivered a landmark ruling that would become the movement’s cornerstone across the U.S. and Canada

The case, People v. Santorelli, involved a group of women who were arrested for appearing topless in a public park as a protest. The Court of Appeals of New York ruled that the state’s law prohibiting women from exposing their breasts was a violation of the Equal Protection Clause of the U.S. Constitution. The court found that the law was not applied equally — it targeted women specifically — and that the government’s stated interest in preserving "public order" was not sufficient to justify this gender-based discrimination. In essence, the court declared that the female breast was not, in and of itself, an obscene or inherently sexual object. The law, it ruled, was unconstitutional.

This was a monumental victory. It established a legal precedent that in New York State, and by extension anywhere with similar constitutional protections, women had the same right as men to be top-free in public. However, a legal right on paper is not the same as a right exercised freely in practice. While the law changed in New York and a handful of other states and cities that followed its lead, the social and cultural stigma did not.

This is the critical gap that Go Topless Day seeks to highlight. The event, founded in 2007, uses the anniversary of this legal victory to ask a simple, powerful question: We have the right, so why can’t we use it without fear?

The double standard is glaring. A man’s bare chest is neutral, even mundane. It is seen as practical, non-sexual, and unremarkable. A woman’s bare chest, however, is hyper-sexualized, politicized, and deemed obscene. It is considered an invitation for public commentary, harassment, and even violence. This discrepancy reveals that the issue is not about nudity itself, but about the specific cultural meaning we assign to the female body. The law in some places may have caught up, but our collective psyche has not.

The Inextricable Link to Women’s Equality Day

The timing of Go Topless Day is its most brilliant and misunderstood strategic element. It is held on the Sunday nearest to August 26th for a powerful reason: that date is Women’s Equality Day.

Women’s Equality Day commemorates the certification of the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution on August 26, 1920, which granted (some) women the right to vote. It is a day to celebrate a hard-won victory in the long struggle for gender equality. But it is also a day to reflect on the work that remains. The right to vote was a crucial step, but it was not the finish line. True equality encompasses economic parity, freedom from violence, reproductive rights, and, fundamentally, bodily autonomy.

Go Topless Day activists argue that the control over one’s own body is the most basic form of autonomy. If a woman does not have sovereignty over her own physical form, how can she claim to be truly equal in any other sphere of life? The protest directly ties the symbolic act of top-freedom to this core principle. By defiantly claiming a legal right that cultural shame still denies them, participants are embodying the next frontier of the equality fight.

They are making the argument that equality is not just about what you can do (vote, work, own property) but also about who you can be in public space without fear of reprisal. It challenges the notion that women’s bodies are public property, subject to constant scrutiny, regulation, and judgment. In this sense, Go Topless Day is a direct, physical continuation of the spirit of Women’s Equality Day. It says, "We won the right to participate in democracy, and now we are fighting for the right to exist in our own skin, freely and without shame."

 Deconstructing the "Distraction" and "Indecency" Arguments

The most common criticisms levelled against Go Topless Day are that it is a "distraction" from more serious feminist issues and that it is simply "indecent." These criticisms deserve to be unpacked, as they often serve to shut down the conversation the event is trying to start.

1. "It’s a distraction from real issues like the pay gap or reproductive rights."

This argument creates a false hierarchy of oppression. It suggests that fights for equality must be waged one issue at a time and that bodily autonomy is somehow less important than economic autonomy. In reality, these issues are deeply intertwined. The sexualisation and objectification of the female body are directly linked to why women are often not taken seriously in the workplace, why their pain is dismissed by doctors, and why legislation controlling their reproductive choices is so pervasive. 

The mindset that says a female nipple is obscene is the same mindset that says a woman’s professional ambition is "unseemly" or that her medical decisions should be made by lawmakers. Challenging one helps to challenge the other. Furthermore, the pay gap is a complex, systemic issue fought in boardrooms and legislatures, often out of the public eye. Go Topless Day, by its very nature, is a highly visible, grassroots action that forces the public to confront its biases head-on. It is a different tactic for the same war.

2. "It’s indecent and inappropriate for children."

This argument is perhaps the most revealing. It hinges on the unexamined assumption that the female body is inherently sexual and therefore inherently inappropriate. Children do not naturally see a bare chest as sexual; they are taught that it is. They see their mothers’ bodies as sources of comfort and nourishment. The "think of the children" argument is often a proxy for adult discomfort. It projects adult sexualisation onto a child’s neutral gaze. 

The protest challenges us to ask: Why is a man’s chest "family-friendly" but a woman’s is not? What are we actually teaching our children when we enforce this double standard? We are teaching them that women’s bodies are shameful, that they must be hidden and controlled, and that they exist primarily for the male gaze. Go Topless Day advocates argue for a world where all bodies are de-sexualised and neutralized in non-intimate contexts, creating a healthier and less objectifying environment for everyone, including children.

 A Global Movement with Local Challenges

The fight for top-free equality is not confined to the United States. It is a global issue, with varying levels of acceptance and legal standing. In much of Europe, top-free sunbathing is common and uncontroversial. In other parts of the world, any public display of skin is heavily restricted by law and custom.

This global perspective further highlights that the issue is cultural, not natural. There is no biological reason for the taboo; it is a social construct. Go Topless Day, therefore, becomes a fascinating case study in how laws and cultural norms interact. It demonstrates that winning a legal battle is only half the fight. The much harder work is changing hearts and minds, dismantling centuries of ingrained conditioning that tells women their bodies are objects of sin, shame, or desire, rather than simply their own.

More Than a Day; A Demand for Bodily Sovereignty

Go Topless Day is often misunderstood because it operates on a level deeper than polite discourse. It is a physical, visceral protest. It uses the body itself as the argument. It forces a confrontation not through reasoned debate alone, but by making the inequality visible, tangible, and impossible to ignore.

It is easy to support equality in the abstract. It is harder to confront the specific, uncomfortable ways in which we are all complicit in upholding inequality. The instinct to look away, to feel awkward, to dismiss the protesters as "crazy" or "attention-seeking" is precisely the instinct the event is designed to provoke. That discomfort is the point. It is the sound of deep-seated cultural norms being challenged.

On its surface, Go Topless Day is about the right to be bare-chested. But it is about more than just breasts. It is about the right to personal autonomy. It is about challenging the patriarchal control of the female body. It is about demanding that women be seen as full human beings, not as collections of sexualized parts that require regulation.

By tying itself to Women’s Equality Day, it issues a bold challenge: Let’s not just celebrate the equality we’ve won in the past. Let’s get serious about winning the equality we still lack. Let’s create a world where the human body, in all its forms, is free from shame, where laws are applied equally, and where a woman’s right to exist in public space is not contingent on how much of her skin she chooses to cover. That is a message worth taking seriously, with or without a shirt on.

Pucker Up

Every year on July 6th, people around the world celebrate one of the simplest and most universal gestures of affection—the kiss. International Kissing Day, also known as World Kiss Day, is a light-hearted holiday that reminds us of the joy and emotional connection that a kiss can bring, whether it’s between romantic partners, family, or friends.

Unlike Valentine’s Day, which often comes with pressure to give gifts or plan something elaborate, International Kissing Day focuses on the kiss itself. It’s about taking a moment to appreciate the intimacy and emotion behind this small but powerful act. From the gentle kiss on a child's forehead to a passionate embrace between lovers, kisses can express everything from comfort and care to desire and love.

The day also offers a fun opportunity to explore kissing customs around the world. In some cultures, a kiss on the cheek is a common greeting. In others, kissing in public may be seen as inappropriate. Yet the meaning behind a kiss remains surprisingly consistent—it’s a sign of connection.

So whether you're celebrating with your partner, sending love to someone far away, or even just treating yourself to a moment of self-love, International Kissing Day is a sweet reminder to slow down, feel the connection, and maybe steal a kiss or two.

The Day the Bikini Changed Everything

Every year on July 5th, we celebrate National Bikini Day, a tribute to one of fashion’s most iconic and controversial inventions—the bikini. This date marks the anniversary of the day the modern bikini made its first appearance in 1946, forever changing how we view swimwear, personal expression, and body freedom.

The story of the bikini begins in post-war France, a nation eager to embrace liberation and modernity after years of occupation and hardship. Enter Louis Réard, a mechanical engineer turned fashion designer. While working at his mother’s lingerie business, Réard noticed women at the beach rolling up their swimsuits to get a better tan. Inspired, he set out to design something smaller, more daring, and more aligned with the spirit of a new, freer generation. 

On July 5, 1946, at the Piscine Molitor in Paris, Réard unveiled his creation to a stunned public: a two-piece swimsuit made of just 30 square inches of fabric. He boldly named it the “bikini,” referencing Bikini Atoll, a remote island in the Pacific Ocean where the U.S. had recently conducted nuclear bomb tests. Réard wanted to suggest that his design would create an explosion in the fashion world just as powerful as those atomic blasts. And he was right.

The bikini was so scandalous for its time that no professional model agreed to wear it. Réard ended up hiring Micheline Bernardini, an exotic dancer from the Casino de Paris, who had no qualms about donning the revolutionary design. The gamble paid off: Bernardini received over 50,000 fan letters, and the bikini was catapulted into infamy and, eventually, mainstream popularity.

Initially, the bikini faced backlash. It was banned from public beaches and pools in several countries, including Italy, Spain, and parts of the United States. But as cinema, pop culture, and attitudes toward women's bodies evolved through the 1950s and '60s, the bikini gained traction. Hollywood stars like Brigitte Bardot and Ursula Andress (in her unforgettable appearance in Dr. No) helped to redefine it from a symbol of scandal to one of glamour and empowerment.

National Bikini Day as a celebration came decades later, as fashion historians, pop culture enthusiasts, and swimwear lovers sought to honor not just the invention, but the cultural shift it represented. It’s a day to reflect on how a few strips of fabric came to represent much more than swimwear—it symbolizes freedom, confidence, and the right to feel good in your skin, no matter your size, shape, or background.

Today, National Bikini Day isn’t just about putting on a swimsuit and heading to the beach. It’s a celebration of self-expression, body positivity, and the courage it takes to challenge social norms. What was once a fashion taboo is now a vibrant staple of summer wardrobes across the globe. Whether you're lounging by the pool, catching waves, or snapping a sunny selfie, July 5 is a reminder of how fashion can make a powerful statement.

So whether you’re rocking a classic triangle cut, a sporty two-piece, or a high-waisted retro look, take a moment to appreciate the legacy of the bikini. It’s not just about skin—it’s about confidence, rebellion, and the joy of summer. Happy National Bikini Day!

Putting National 69 Day into practice

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Myth or Truth?

Sex is one of the most natural human experiences, yet it remains one of the most misunderstood. Cultural, religious, and societal influences have created deep-seated taboos that distort our perception of pleasure, intimacy, and even our own bodies.

In honour of World Sex Day, let’s separate fact from fiction by looking at 9 common myths about sex; debunking six common myths that are totally untrue and highlighting three that are actually true.

By understanding the difference between fact and fiction, we can all learn lessons that can lead to better intimacy, stronger relationships, and a healthier attitude toward pleasure. So let's get into it...

❌ Myth 1 - "Only Penetrative Sex ‘Counts’ as Real Sex" 

The Myth: Society often defines sex narrowly and only penis-in-vagina intercourse is seen as "real" sex, ignoring other forms of pleasure.

The Truth: Sex is whatever brings you and your partner(s) pleasure and connection.

• Oral sex, manual stimulation, mutual masturbation, and even sensual touch are all valid forms of intimacy.
• Many women don’t orgasm from penetration alone.
• Expanding your definition of sex can lead to more satisfying experiences.

Broaden your sex play to include:

• Exploring non-penetrative pleasure with a partner.
• Focusing on sensation rather than performance.

✅ Myth 2 - "Morning Sex Is Better"

The Myth: Morning intimacy often leads to more satisfying sexual experiences.

The Truth: It really can... because science!

• Testosterone peaks in the morning for both sexes (highest 7-9 AM).
• Sleep restores physical stamina and lowers inhibitions by reducing prefrontal cortex activity,.
• Morning light stimulates serotonin production, enhancing emotional connection during intimacy.
• Empty stomachs mean better blood flow to erogenous zones.

Make the most of it:

• Set your alarm 30 minutes early twice a week for intimate time.
• Keep lube and condoms in your nightstand for spontaneous mornings.
• Try "sleepy sex" – slow, sensual connection as you wake up.

❌ Myth 3 - "Men Think About Sex Every 7 Seconds"

The Myth: The stereotype that men are constantly horny while women are passive or disinterested.

The Truth: This is a ridiculous exaggeration. Desire varies by individual, not gender.

• Women can have high libidos; men can have low ones—and both are normal. Desire isn’t gender-exclusive.
• Stress, hormones, mental health, and relationship dynamics affect desire.
• Societal shaming of women’s sexuality has suppressed open expression of desire.

Instead of assumptions, consider:

• Normalizing conversations about fluctuating libidos.
• Recognizing that arousal isn’t always spontaneous (responsive desire is valid too).

❌ Myth 4 - "If You’re Not Having Sex, Your Relationship Is Doomed"

The Myth: A "dead bedroom" is often seen as a sign of inevitable breakup, and couples are shamed for not having frequent sex.

The Truth: Relationships thrive on intimacy, not just sex.

• Some couples have less sex due to stress, health, or simply personal preference.
• Emotional closeness, cuddling, and non-sexual touch maintain bonds.
• Pressuring a partner into sex damages trust and connection.

Don't panic, try:

• Discussing needs without judgment.
• Exploring other forms of intimacy if sex isn’t a priority right now.

✅ Myth 5 - "Orgasms Relieve Stress"

The Myth: Climaxing provides measurable stress reduction.

The Truth: Studies show a 50-75% reduction in perceived stress immediately after orgasm

• Orgasms trigger oxytocin release, i.e. the "cuddle hormone", which lowers cortisol by up to 75% and dopamine production, which can improve mood for 2-4 hours post-orgasm.
• Post-orgasm prolactin creates natural drowsiness, aiding sleep.
• The act itself can distract from anxious thoughts through sensory focus, which creates a "mental reset" from anxious thought patterns.

How to take advantage of it:

• Schedule "stress relief sessions" – quick solo or partnered release during high-tension days.
• Combine orgasms with aromatherapy (lavender) for enhanced relaxation.
• Practice "aftercare" – 10 minutes of cuddling post-orgasm to maximize oxytocin benefits.

❌ Myth 6 - "Bigger Penises = Better Sex"

The Myth: Deeper penetration equals greater pleasure.

The Truth: Size can have little to do with sexual satisfaction.

• Most nerve endings in the vagina are in the first few inches.
• Skill, communication, and emotional connection matter way more than size.
• Many people with larger partners report discomfort rather than pleasure.

Rather than worrying about going deep:

• Experiment with shallow thrusting (2-3 inch depth) to maximize clitoral/G-spot contact.
• Master the Coital Alignment Technique.

❌ Myth 7 - "If You’re Not Having Sex, You’re Abnormal"

The Myth: Society often treats celibacy or asexuality as strange or unhealthy.

The Truth: Not everyone wants or needs sex—and that’s okay.

• Asexuality is a valid orientation.
• Some people abstain for personal, religious, or mental health reasons.
• Your worth isn’t tied to sexual activity.

Don't judgment, be mindful of:

• Respecting others’ choices without questioning them.
• Recognizing that intimacy comes in many forms.

✅ Myth 8 - "Sex Gets Better With Age"

The Myth: Long-term sexual satisfaction increases with decades of experience.

The Truth: A greater proportion of older adults do indeed report higher sexual satisfaction than amongst younger adults.

• Studies suggest that 75% of 60+ couples report being sexually satisfied vs 55% of 20-somethings.
• Many couples in long-term relationships learn each other’s preferences deeply.
• With age comes greater experience, better communication and less shame around desires.
• Many report intensified orgasms due to thinner vaginal walls/prostate sensitivity.

Keep a record to prove it:

• Keep a "pleasure journal" to track how your preferences evolve decade by decade.

❌ Myth 9 - "Good Sex Means Simultaneous Orgasms"

The Myth: Movies and porn often depict sex as a perfectly synchronized event where both partners climax at the same time.

The Truth: Orgasm isn’t the only goal of sex—pleasure is.

• Only about 25-30% of women consistently orgasm from penetration alone.
• Taking turns, using hands or toys, and enjoying the journey can be just as satisfying.
• Pressure to perform can actually make orgasms harder to achieve.

Instead of focusing on the finish line, try:

• Extending foreplay.
• Celebrating pleasure in all its forms, even without orgasm.

You Got(h) That Vibe

Apparently. it's World Goth Day. Thanks to Clara for pointing that out over on Twitter. Despite my propensity for wearing black lipstick and nail polish, it's not a scene that I've ever been a part of. It does a certain vibe that I do find attractive though , which is why I challenged myself to goth it up for my evening out at Juice.

And, if this vibe is not for you, don't worry, the black highlights and tips in my hair will wash out in a few days,  so I've not done anything too radical. Come next week, my familiar red hair will be back in full force, probably with a few pink highlights, but we'll see how the mood takes me.

Lingerie can be for everyone!

Last year, I had a very last minute idea to invite a dozen or so creators to join me in celebrating National Lingerie Day. My reason for choosing this day above all others to test how possible it would be to get a bunch of varied creators all working towards a single goal. 

Now, I appreciate that a lot of the sexy days I promote, are perhaps a little lewder than some creators are comfortable posting for. I mean, not everyone is going to be willing to share some intimate pics of themselves enjoying Anal Sex Day, for example. Which is why, a lingerie themed day seemed like the perfect choice. To me at, least, it feels like it is just a lot more inclusive across a much broader spectrum of content. Whether a creator likes to post filthy fuck pics, cute selfies or classy fashion shots, they can each contribute in their own way without having to step to far out of their normal comfort zone.

And the response last year was pretty overwhelming. All but one of those ladies that I contacted, plus a very extra ladies who spontaneously hopped onboard during the day, chose to take part by sharing some super sexy and saucy lingerie pics.

So, moving to to this year, I wanted to see if we could make even more off a splash by going bigger and better! Critically, I figured it would be beneficial to give everyone more than the 24hrs notice they got last year to prepare something. That meant spamming creators a week ahead of time to let them know what was on the horizon. 

Further more, instead of inviting around a dozen peeps to contribute, I wanted to go big. Buoyed by the enthusiastic response last year, which gave me the braver to spread my net far wider, I messaged probably around 4 times that number this time round.

Finally, in addition to contacting more creators about getting involved, I also suggested that anyone wanting to take part should tag their posts with #3DXLingerie so that all of the amazing posts can all get collected together in one place to show how much of a team effort it has been.

Now, as of the time that I am writing this, I would say we have just about surpassed last year's number of posts and there are still plenty of hours left in the day for more to come in. Unfortunately, not everyone who has posted chose to do so with the #3DXLingerie hashtag, making it a little tricker to keep track of what has been posted. But I would urge you to click that link and go check out those that can be found there.

Of course, I would never ask other to do anything that I'm not prepared to do myself, so got the ball rolling with some hot snaps of me in a matching set of black lace bra and panties with some pretty red trim on. And, as a thank you for being a loyal follower of mine, you get to be treated to a few extra pics of me modelling my chosen lingerie compared to what I've managed to post over on Twitter.

The Real Risks of Sending Nudes

Today might be dubbed National Send Nudes Day — a trending events that pops up each year with a mix of memes, flirtation, and bold selfies - but, while the internet celebrates with cheeky humour and provocative posts, it's important to hit pause and talk about the very real pitfalls of sharing intimate photos.

 

The Temptation and the Risks

Let’s be real: in a digital world where relationships often start in the DMs, sexting has become common. But what starts as a moment of trust and connection can turn into regret, invasion of privacy, or worse.

Here are a few reasons to think twice before hitting send:

1. Loss of Control

Once you send a nude, it’s out of your hands — literally. Even with disappearing messages or private chats, screenshots and cloud backups can keep your photos alive far longer than you intended.

2. Trust Can Be Temporary

People change, relationships shift, and sadly, not everyone respects your boundaries afterward. Nudes can be used for revenge, blackmail (aka sextortion), or simply shared without your consent.

3. Legal Trouble

Depending on your age and the laws in your area, sending or possessing explicit images can cross into illegal territory — especially if anyone involved is under 18, even if it's consensual.

4. Privacy Breaches

Phones get hacked. Clouds get leaked. We've all seen celebrities' private photos made public. The same risks apply to everyone.

5. You Don't Owe Anyone a Nude

If someone is pressuring you to send something you're not comfortable with, that’s a huge red flag. Consent isn’t just about physical boundaries — it applies to digital ones, too. You never have to send anything just to keep someone’s interest, attention, or approval. Your comfort comes first. Always.

Think Before You Share

If you're going to share intimate content, consider safer practices:

• Don’t show your face, identifiable tattoos, or personal surroundings.

• Use encrypted platforms and disappearing messages — though they’re not foolproof.

• Most importantly, make sure it’s fully consensual, mutual, and respectful.

Bottom Line

Sexual expression is valid, and owning your body is empowering — but your digital footprint is forever. On a day like National Send Nudes Day, it’s worth remembering that privacy, respect, and safety are still sexy. Stay smart, stay empowered — and maybe, keep a little mystery too.

Now, with all of that being said, here's me ignoring half of my own advice to share a quick nude selfie I took in the shower this morning!

The Sweet Suite

At some point in the past, I've probably gone on the record as saying that Cake and Cunnilingus Day is my favourite event of the year. I mean, if you can find two more enjoy things than sweet treats and getting licked out, I would be very surprised. So stick them together and... boom!... what a day you'll have!

Anyways, this year, I really wanted to take my enjoyment of the day to another level, so I came up with a multi-stage plan to enjoy maximum pleasure. But, as is often the way, things rarely go to plan. Still, it was not a disaster. Just not quite the 'next level' that I had hoped to be telling you all about.

Ok, so stage 1 was to book out what I've dubbed the 'Sweet Suite'. In other words, a rather fancy hotel suite that has been stocked full of all sorts of sweet treats. Mostly, cakes of all shapes and sizes, because, you know, gotta put the 'cake' in 'Cake and Cunnilingus Day'. But I like a bit of variety, so there were some other sugary treats as well, such as my favourite brand of lollipop.

With the 'where' sorted, it was onto stage 2, which was the 'with whom', I would be enjoying some sweet and naughty fun. And this is where I wanted to put a twist on compared to how I've celebrated in past years.

You see, I've always focused on the aspect of Cake and Cunnilingus Day where it is a response to Steak and Blowjob Day, which is, in turn, a response to Valentine's Day. Just in case you hadn't noticed, its not by coincidence that they all fall on the 14th of consecutive months. 

Steak and Blowjob Day was very deliberately placed exactly a month after Valentine's Day to give a more guy-orientated day where wives and girlfriends can show some gratitude for putting their husbands and boyfriends through the stress of  Valentine's Day by showing them oral appreciation.

But you know what? It's not just guys that enjoy receiving some oral appreciation so, it was always inevitable, that the scales would need balancing. Hence, exactly 1 month after Steak and Blowjob Day we now also have Cake and Cunnilingus Day for the favour to be returned.

Why am I explaining all of this? Well, its to give some context that I've always associated Cake and Cunnilingus Day with being a strictly hetero celebration, i.e. Husbands and boyfriends providing some pleasure to their wives and girlfriends, and typically being within some sort of romantic relationship. 

But should it be broader than that? Could it just be about any woman getting to enjoy getting eaten out by any partner? Does it have to be a romantic partner or could it be any guy who is willing to offer their services? Indeed, does it even need to be a guy at all?

These were the questions that I was eager to explore this year so, if we get back to my plan, I invited a couple of willing volunteers to join me in the Sweet Suite; my husband Ace to tick off the partner angle, and my gay crush, Emmy, to explore the non-partner / non-hetero angle.

At least, that was the plan... Reality had other plans though and events conspired so that Emmy was unable to make, leaving my well-laid plans well and truly scuppered.

Regardless, I still had my husband at hand and a whole load of cakes to scoff my way through, so all was not lost. It just means that I can't bring you the usually sort of lewd but insightful discussion that I try my best to always deliver. Instead, you'll just have to make do with a bunch of photos of Ace eating me out while I eat my way through a stack of donuts.

OK so, since we weren't sure if Emmy was just running late or completely waylaid, we obviously got cracking without her, in the hope that she would be able to join in at some point, but that obviously never happened.

Instead, I decided I'd go another round with Ace. With the Sweet Suite costing a pretty penny to book, I didn't want to not get value for money by vacating the room prematurely. So quick coffee break and then a forced him back to work!

But that did make me fell a little bad. He had done such a diligent job of going down on me that, as I sat there on his face, his tongue flicking against my moist pussy lips, I couldn't help but feel a little selfish for not giving him anything in return. And his erect cock that was standing tall before me did look every bit as yummy as all of the treats that surrounded us.

So yeah, I couldn't resist sucking him off in return. And, soon enough. our roles were completely reversed as I allowed him to tuck into some of the excess donuts while I slurped on big dick.

Maybe its not quite in keeping with the theme of the day. But whatever... I do enjoying sucking cock so I'm not going to apologise for straying away from the pussy licking intent of the event. 

If I do need to somehow convince you that giving my husband and nice, sloppy blowjob for Cake and Cunnilingus Day was somehow thematically appropriate, then I will just direct you to inspect the photos of how he finished all over my face. He well and truly glazed my face like a donut when he nutted all over me and that, ladies and gentlemen, ties things up nice and neatly in my opinion.

As for Emmy missing out... well, there's always next year, right?